Although my girls desire to be married some day, dating for fun instead of dating for marriage is working.
To me, this time spent meant that either we had gotten comfortable just dating and were subconsciously tied to just that, or simply put, maybe he just wasn’t into me.
Whatever the reason, one thing was clear: we were not going to be together.
I don’t write very many articles for singles because it has been more than 18 years since I’ve been single. Third, that three-month rule is basically non-existent.
Therefore, I tend to keep my focus and my curiosity on all things marriage. After a recent ladies’ night out with my girlfriends, a few interesting thoughts surfaced. Today’s single woman, isn’t really how I remembered her. My single friends gave me an earful and really broke down what dating looks like now, and it wasn’t what I thought. Woman are bolder than ever when it comes to approaching a man and asking him out. They are speaking their minds and getting just what they desire out of their relationships.
It doesn’t seem to come with the same amount of pressure.
Back in the day, with almost every date, we wondered if this could be “the one.” Today, my friends are definitely having a ball and seeking “the one” isn’t the top priority.
Honesty and being open about the direction the relationship takes seems to be serving them well. Women today are holding out for what they really want.
And when it is marriage, they state it early on and are willing to walk away if it isn’t leading to what they want.
First thing this morning I got a text from one of my friends, the kind I get all too often. ” My response was my standard one: “Get back to me in three months.” If I’ve learned one valuable thing from the dating whirligig I’ve been on for the last six years (give or take six months here or there), it’s that you must wait at least three months before getting excited about the long-term possibilities of a new person. I totally believe in love for myself and my friends, but what I believe in more is that it takes a really long time to get to know someone and it’s a complicated process.