Christian Rudder, president of Ok Cupid, is the guy who digs up the numbers from the millions of people using his free dating site.
I thought that since I was an attractive, fit, well-educated, financially and emotionally secure guy that I would have no problem finding a woman in her mid 30s to settle down with and start a family.
I have tried a combination of online dating, speed dating, professional singles events, volunteering, happy hours etc. I thought that online dating would be great since you are essentially pre-screening people for dates.
Now you’re going to get the same song and dance as every other guy who has written to complain about women on the Internet. So let’s say you’re a 36-year-old woman, entering the prime of your life. Yeah, 45 is a little old, you say, but you want to be open-minded. It’s that you’re failing to recognize what most younger women want. At least you know that a woman on Millionaire Match might be more willing to sacrifice youth for security.
You’re done with the bar scene and you’re very much interested in settling down to have a family of your own. Well, if you’re born in 1971, you’re part of Generation X. Your friends are buying their first houses and having their first kids. Maybe he’ll still be vigorous enough to keep up with your active lifestyle. Next, since you can’t convince someone to date an older man, stop trying.
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Popular TBS sitcom Cougar Town focused on the concept of older, divorcees dating younger men after ending their marriages, with former Friends actress Courtney Cox starring as a forty-something woman who enjoys a series of relationships with younger men following her break-up.
In addition to showing the increasing number of young men who are on the look-out for older women, Elite Singles' research also indicated that the average 'ideal' age gap for most men over the age of 30 is also becoming smaller.
Data reveals truths that we might not want to say out loud.
Of course, when you flip the data around and look at what age men find women most physically appealing, you get an appalling answer. It’s shocking to see on paper, but not so surprising if you’ve ever talked to an actual man, read a men’s magazine or looked at porn intended for men.
According to the study, the average man above the age of 30 wants to find a woman who is just 11 years younger than him - a gap which Elite Singles believes is far smaller than many men would have opted for a few years ago.