At first, it isn’t sexual attraction (well, most of the time).
So often times, either as a way to soften the blow or out of sincere feelings of warmth, we say, “But let’s stay friends.” From an intellectual level remaining friends may seem like a good idea. The ever present danger for these types of friendships is a backslide.
I like having her in my life, so we should stop being romantic and just keep the friend part.” If both individuals are emotionally mature, and completely lacking in romantic feelings for each other, then a jump straight to the friend zone might be possible. Mutual breakups are usually not mutual, and the breakee is holding on to some strong romantic desires.
Trying to force a friendship too early means you’re going to fall right back into old patterns with your ex and that spells trouble.
Most of the time, when you’ve broken up, it’s for a very good reason.
With casual sex on the rise and the help of on-demand online dating, the question, “Can guys and girls be just friends? Dave Matthews answers this question on point: “A guy and a girl can be just friends, but at one point or another, they will fall for each other.
Maybe temporarily, maybe at the wrong time, maybe too late, or maybe forever.”The short answer is yes, you can be just friends, but don't expect smooth sailing.
If you’ve ever known love, you’ve also definitely known heartbreak.
Unless the first person you’ve ever had feelings for becomes the person you marry and stay with forever, you’ve most certainly experienced a breakup, whether that breakup was wonderfully relieving, massively heart-wrenching or perfectly amicable.
What we look for in our guy friends is very much the same in what we look for in a significant other: chemistry.