While my sudden unspoken desire was to deepen our intimacy, Paul’s signals proved alternately encouraging then confusing.
A promised lunch together that fell through due to sickness; a lingering smile at my door one day turned into distracted “gotta run, department meeting” the next.
Just as I began to understand that he wasn’t interested in me in that way, he’d come back, affectionate and confiding.
His long-distance girlfriend had broken up with him or his relative was terminally ill. Nothing further is exactly how our relationship played, while, to my great consternation, we hit a plateau between consolation and water cooler repartee.
You are happily ensconced with your partner when all of a sudden you realise you have developed feelings for someone else.
Maybe they are at work and have always caught your eye and you have resisted.
While it’s natural to find someone else attractive at times, deciding what to do about it is never easy.
One of the first things you really need to do is evaluate your own relationship. Can you see your own lover in your life five years from now?
Maybe they are a friend who has been right in front of for years, but something has changed. Statistics suggest 50 per cent of those in a relationship have feelings for other people. Maybe they just make you laugh and the everyday drudge of work seem less cumbersome.