If someone you love acts differently than most people, you might wonder what the cause is.
We learn so much about other people and ourselves from body language and how we act in certain situations.
For example, while a "neuro-typical" person might think a bar is great place for a first date, it could be one of the worst spots for someone on the spectrum.
Dorsey Massey, a social worker who helps run dating and social programs for adults with various intellectual disabilities, explained, “If it's a loud, crowded place, an individual on the spectrum may be uncomfortable or distracted.” Sensory issues may also make certain lights and noises especially unpleasant.
The aspects of autism that can make everyday life challenging—reading social cues, understanding another's perspectives, making small talk and exchanging niceties—can be seriously magnified when it comes to dating.
Though the American Psychiatric Association defines autism as a spectrum disorder—some people do not speak at all and have disabilities that make traditional relationships (let alone romantic ones) largely unfeasible, but there are also many who are on the "high-functioning" end and do have a clear desire for dating and romance.
But our connection had been instant and it deepened very quickly.
When the intense feeling between us shallowed and then vanished almost as instantly as it began, following an all-in courtship that involved traveling to visit his family (twice! Related: Girl Talk: I Always Ask The Big Questions Paul has mild autism (meaning he’s on the highly functioning end of the autism spectrum).In Asperger’s and Anxiety Dubin mentions another autistic man who didn’t date until his forties. It can take autistic people a long time to develop the confidence and social skills we need to maintain meaningful relationships.But that does not mean meaningful relationships are impossible.In a piece on , writer Alex Myles says, "Romantic relationships can be complicated and frustrating for a lot of people, let alone those on the autism spectrum.Love, affection, and communication can be puzzling for everyone, but for those on the spectrum, it can feel impossible."Here are eight signs you or someone you love is on the autism spectrum.1. When someone has ASD, they may not be as affectionate as you might like, and may act as if they're being tortured when you give them a spontaneous hug.If you think you might have autism spectrum disorder (ASD), knowing what to look out for can help you get a diagnosis from a medical professional.