Do you feel that you can love her sacrificially, or respect and support him?
They have seemingly great mates who have jobs and call their moms and open doors to restaurants- but haven’t yet popped the question.
The relationship is traveling into their third (or sixth) year and nothing is wrong except these girls would like to take the relationship to the next level and their men have yet to agree.
Finally, is there an affection for this person in my heart and mind based on the way God has defined biblical manhood and womanhood?
This is (hopefully) a much deeper and godlier assessment then simply asking, "Am I physically attracted to him or her? " If you get through all that soul-searching, you may decide (probably separately at this point) that marriage between the two of you is the right thing before the Lord.
In my mind, I would have been a fool not to marry Ashley.
Yet so many people questioned my composure that I began to worry whether something was wrong with me.
Ted Huston, a leading researcher on transitions in relationships, marriage and parenthood, followed couples for 13 years starting in 1979.
He states in his study that happily married couples dated for approximately 25 months before getting married. Couples who were unhappily married soon after they said “I do” and quickly divorced more often married at or after three years.
I get asked a lot of relationship-themed questions given where I work, and one of them is from women with boyfriends who want to know how long to wait for the ring.