(The other, larger reason it’s continuing is because this guy is an enormous ass.
But you’re not obligated to play along.) By answering his questions, you’re telling him that this is a subject you’re willing to discuss with him, so you’ve got to stop.
What may seem benign and in fact positive to some can come back to bite the employees and supervisors faster than you can say “Sexual Harassment.” At Johns Hopkins University, our fitness program has strict boundaries on employee dating.
For example, stated in the “Grounds for Dismissal/Firing” section of our fitness employee manual, any personal trainer who has a sexual or romantic relationship with a client is subject to being removed from the staff. Similarly, fitness supervisors are not permitted to date the employees they supervise because of the inequities incurred, whether real or construed.
You don’t need to make a big deal out of it — you can just stop participating.
For instance: Him: “How’s your boyfriend treating you?
In fact just last week I heard a radio morning show host say that trainers were no different from prostitutes!
But is there really anything wrong with trainers dating their clients?
I recently landed an account that my boss was really after me to get.
I went to have a business lunch with a person from their organization prior to assuring their business, and he asked me about my dating life (this man is old enough to be my father). This is a huge account, so I don’t want to lose their business, and I feel pretty uncomfortable talking with my boss about it.
Meeting a new client isn’t too different from a dreaded first date. Take control and make an impression that shows off your skills, personality and goals.