Nobody knows what fuels the gay flame -- nature or nurture.
Also closely associated and equated to metrosexual males, you can recognize a feminine man anywhere, because of his dapper suit, perfect hair, clean-shaven face, and manicured nails.
Aside from looks, the feminine man can also be considered the new Renaissance man, exhibiting sensitivity, culture, and fine taste for everything, as opposed to the manly man, who has a more primal *if not cave man* appeal.
The mis-matched mating call of the merry marys brings up a great question: If effeminacy is counter-productive to attracting the kind of sexual partners you want, then why not butch it up?
Is it because like being gay, being effeminate isn't a choice?
I've always maintained that effeminacy is like obesity. Everybody he hung out with liked to do drag and camp it up.
Sometimes it's glandular, but mostly it's cultural. You fall into it with baggy jeans and a t-shirt and climb out of it with spandex up the crack of your ass. " Closeted when I met him, he was popular, gorgeous, smart and athletic. Suddenly, Larry started shaving his legs, wearing tight shorts, and calling everyone "girl." He ripened into a fruit before my very eyes.
Why do so many effeminate gay men prefer in their partners the very masculinity they've bleached out of themselves?
The obvious answer is that they're attracted to their opposites. Effeminate men may lust for their masculine counterparts but most masculine men don't return the favor.
Certainly not all homosexual people give evidence of these characteristics, and many effeminate men and masculine women are not homosexual, but the traits are common enough to create almost universally recognized stereotypes.