This may sound like a sensible romantic strategy—why eliminate possible partners by revealing the scar on one side of your face or the fact that you’re obsessed with Star Wars kitsch?An excessive concern for what other people think inevitably leads to what Carl Jung famously described as a persona, in Jung’s words "a kind of mask, designed on the one hand to make a definite impression upon others, and on the other to conceal the true nature of the individual." Yagan describes the fallacy of this please-them-all approach.(We will talk more about this and other online dating safety points a little later on).
Of course as long as there has been online dating, there has been a stigma attached to it.
Ten years ago, had anyone told you, “We met online”, you may have tried to stifle one or possibly all of the following: It was the equivalent of saying, “I’m desperate, and the ticking of my biological clock keeps me up at night.” However today, with the bombardment of television ads and word-of-mouth praise, online daters are coming out of the closet. I didn’t believe it until I began researching for this article.
There are a number of great reasons to try online dating.
First off, you can do it from the comfort of your own home. You don’t have to give out your name, your location or any personal information.
When summer begins, we are suddenly in the thick of wedding season. In the midst of all this wedded bliss, you’re just trying to avoid your newly engaged friend and sparing yourself a half-hour conversation about the difference between egg white and winter white.
It’s time for joy, flowers, caterers, something borrowed, and something blue. Maybe it was getting that last wedding invitation of a college friend or browsing through Bed, Bath & Beyond with a gift registry full of expensive silverware.Somehow, you can’t help but feel a little left out. Growing up, you always took for granted you’d be married by now. Some of your less-coordinated friends have managed to do it. So you got a house, a car, a degree, a job, did some traveling, and built yourself into somebody rather enviable. Today, singles all over the world are kissing fate goodbye and looking for love online. Online dating has been around as long as the Web made it possible for two people to communicate.But one thing today’s singles are finding out is that there is one thing in life you can’t work for, be good enough for, or accomplish through any persistence of your own. Now, millions log on everyday to search through profiles and photos of total strangers, hoping to find that special someone.If my client happens to be in a relationship we typically focus on problems with their partner or mate. ” My suggestion to meeting someone new, especially for my over 40 clientele, is to try online dating. ” Or “Do I seem that desperate that I have go online to find someone? Where do you go to meet the man of woman of your dreams?If he or she isn’t in a relationship I am often asked , “Where can I meet Mr. I don’t know about you, but I’m not interested in looking for “the man of my dreams” at a bar.When someone posts an attractive profile photo that reveals nothing about their inner life, he told us, that sort of image may generate a positive response but it’s not likely to lead to matches.