I looked at one such venue (match.com), as well as printed “personals” in various publications and numerous self-help or “relationship books” seeking to enlighten their readers about the best ways to find a compatible partner or mate.
Having just published a book about modern American ways of seeking intimate and durable personal relationships, I read with great interest Nick Paumgarten’s “Looking for Someone” in the July 4 New Yorker.
While my book (entitled Extravagant Expectations: New Ways to Find Romantic Love in America) is not limited to a discussion of Internet dating, I share his interest in the question whether or not Internet personals help or hinder the objectives pursued.
I was especially struck by the characteristic American disposition to embrace conflicting values and desires in the course of “looking for someone,” and especially the unstated belief that all good things are compatible.
It is an attitude that does not bode well for the compromises and adjustments all durable personal relationships require.
C., describe a group of female warriors who lost to the Greeks at the battle of Thermodon.
Herodotus' Amazons were taken prisoner and put on ships, but overwhelmed and killed the Greek crew.
I was especially interested in the human qualities most highly valued by those looking for a long-term partner.
I came to the conclusion that the seamless compatibility pursued by the experts (and those they seek to help) is a fantasy not altogether different from the romantic yearnings of the past, which found expression in many novels.
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Amazons in myth: History’s first mention of a race of warrior women is found in Homer’s ILIAD, an account of the Trojan War, probably written in the 8th or 7th century B. Homer’s Amazons, a race of fierce women who mated with vanquished male foes and kept only the female children they bore, were believed to occupy the area around the Black Sea. One of the labors of Hercules, for example, required him to acquire the girdle of the Amazon queen, Hippolyte.