Many greatly prefer the company of their male friends, down the pub, talking about football, rather than getting mixed up in female conversation.
Combine this with the other details on this list, and the recipe for public judgment causes many Japanese girls to steer clear.
Hand in hand with the public stigma are the judgment of what may be a Japanese girl’s most influential figures: her Mom and Dad.
Most women realise quite early on that life is unfair.
It is possible to lead the first thirty five years or so in a fog of illusion about this but then as one’s looks suddenly and unaccountably start to fail and you see your mother’s face looking back from the mirror, a woman’s optimistic outlook can change.
This isn’t to suggest that parental disapproval is the norm (although there are some horror stories), nor is it to say racism is rampant, but sometimes there are some old fashioned attitudes in regards to relationships.
Add a lack of a common tongue into the mix, and foreigner’s chance of wooing a girl’s affection can get a bit complicated.
At the same time, like folks in most other developed countries, Japanese people have been inundated with media from America and are avid travelers.
They are equally interested in Europe, and other parts of Asia like Taiwan, Thailand and Korea.
Three female friends of mine who were single aged forty are still unwed, but my two best male friends, whom I found impossibly unromantic, are now both wed; to foreign women they met online.