During the past two decades, I’ve dated both men in recovery and men who weren’t alcoholics (called “normies” by us in the program).
I’m currently single again, a sober divorcée in the strange world of online dating. How do you allude to your past (and present) situations without lying or scaring off a potential match?
You can tell them, “I’ve been in six rehabs, four psych wards, and I’ve been arrested for assault.” And, they’re like, “Of course you have.” The downside is that they, too, are often a ticking time bomb.
Natasha, an ex-pat who's been on the wagon for 10 years agrees.
I’ve been in and out of 12-step recovery programs (like Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous) for almost 20 years.
I’ve had many periods of sobriety, from a paltry four months to a lengthy seven years (and everything in between).
" "We're choosing to love him," her mother explained, "because love is a choice." There's no better wisdom Susan's mother could have imparted to her before marriage.
Likewise, the best way to feel loving is to be loving ― and that means giving.
Have any DLers dated or are dating a recovering alcoholic? If the person has addressed their issue, and is working on living life and being a productive member of society - I don’t see a problem with it.
People get all whacked out about dating someone that is in recovery or had a problem in the past. In general - I find the AA adherents to be insufferable after a while.
The advice to not date or become involved with someone intimately during early recovery is a frequent point of resistance.