This goes back to a key principle of human behavior: The things you are most attracted to are the ones that you are not certain about.
Uncertainty breeds an incredible gratitude for the times when you're rewarded. Inconsistency - Surprise, danger, thrills - are found on the ROLLERCOASTER.
These things often act as a usually subconscious form of mind control.
Then researchers changed the pattern: sometimes when the lever was pressed food was delivered, sometimes it was not.
The mice not only pressed the lever obsessively, but they did so until they injured themselves from all the pressing.
It is instant death when you hand over "control" to a woman.
My secret is to give women "intermittent reinforcement." This actually is a psychological phenomenon commonly documented in experiments involving rats.
How do I either get out of a relationship in which these things are active -- or stay in the relationship without being victimized by these dynamics?
Whether we decide to end a relationship with someone with BPD, stay with them, or whether the person is a parent or a child, it is necessary to understand "traumatic bonding", and "intermittent reinforcement", and how these things might keep us involved with the person in an unhealthy way.
I'm going to propose something very controversial, but I believe works out the best for everyone in the end: Keep her off balance.
What I mean by this is that you do not want any woman feeling too secure or cocky about how you feel about her or the hold she's got on you.
Take the test, read about the implications, and check out the remedies.