Relationships vary by country and so do expectations for dating. Teaching and living abroad shouldn't mean putting your love life on hold.
Let’s be honest; there are a lot of distinctly average-looking foreign guys living in Japan dating jaw-droppingly beautiful Japanese girls. But no matter how much we remind ourselves that it’s what’s on the inside that counts, there’s no denying the fact that human beings, flawed as we are, make a lot of decisions based on appearances. Rather than ask my wife (a native Japanese lady and, yes, far too pretty for me) and risk alerting her to the fact that she might have done better, I took my question to a higher power- the internet.
We’ve all witnessed it- a woman who could play the female lead in the next movie, walking down the street with a guy who, if we searched for him in the same movie’s end credits, would more likely appear as something along the lines of “man in post office # 3”. And when Johnny Average gets to date Princess Zelda (I’m a nerd, remember? After a little bit of poking around, I came upon an incredibly interesting article on Madame Riri, a Japanese-run website that analyses all-things-Japan from an outside perspective, titled “7 Reasons Why Foreign Men in Japan are Such a Hit with the Ladies”.
Men on this site preach the red pill but forget that it applies to all women, not just women in certain countries.
So with that said, it is time I debunk some of these myths and bring you the reality.
You don’t have to talk about all of these things with each dating partner, but you should definitely think about it especially with one that seems like it could evolve into a relationship. Are you looking for a casual hookup, a friend with benefits, a boyfriend/girlfriend, or a future marriage partner?
As mentioned before, you probably shouldn't actually discuss this, but early on in the dating process, you should figure out what you want from the relationship. If you are looking for a long-term relationship, set some long-term dates, like going to Sky Tree on Christmas or a romantic getaway to Okinawa during summer vacation.reasons why Japanese girls don’t like foreign guys, the majority of which can be summed up by one of Japan’s most relevant cultural exports: anime.All of the artwork in this post was created by Mizuka Inaba.This is especially true during casual encounters with a Japanese person who has never dated a foreigner. Some of the common presumptions you might want to watch out for are: If you are not comfortable taking your relationship to the next step (especially in terms of physically) make that clear!Intercultural relationships often have difficulties when it comes to communication.It’s not just conversation that makes this a turn off either. Very few couples are interracial, and of those that progress to marriage, the overwhelming majority are actually between a Japanese man and a foreign women (source).