The wave of “deadness” that can submerge a relationship after the first thrilling months or years have caused many couples to lose hope, and even look elsewhere for the excitement of newfound intimacy.
With researchers estimating that 30-60 percent of married individuals in the United States will have an affair at some point in their relationship, it may be time to really examine what causes our affections to wane.
In fact, turning down sex in favour of an early night to go to sleep was named as the biggest reason for the spark to start fading, closely followed by no longer kissing each other goodbye and going on fewer ‘date nights’.
However Fiona Hope, managing director of Soda Stream UK which commissioned the research, said they found couples were recognising the pitfalls of taking each other for granted and were activity trying to reinvigorate their relationship before it got too late.
And believe me, I know I do have them (OK, since I listed my good traits, I’ll list some bad as well — I’m overly sensitive, I’m very particular, I’m stubborn, I’m blunt to a fault at times, I cry every time I get upset, I can be self-obsessed and overly analytical, which is boring for others, etc., etc.).
Don’t get me wrong — I can’t say that I don’t meet men.
There's a common mistake you might be making that will stop a great relationship in its tracks, before its even had time to grow.
It's that once you know a man really likes you, you start to take his feelings for granted.
Many of these connections lead to long term relationships and – quite often – marriage.
Warren, For a little over a month I e-mailed back and forth with a match who I was really attracted to. I’d hate to think that we spent all that time getting to know each other and it turned out to be nothing.
Here's the real reason the romance evaporated.