With a little preparation, you’ll soon realize that that this was an easy call that you didn’t have to spend too much thought on.
Compulsive phone checking is a drug dealer mannerism, and drug dealer mannerisms have no place at lunch with your mom, or at the movies with your friends or on a date with a cop.
Put the phone on silent, put it in your pocket, and try not to think about it for one hour.
And this doesn’t mean try to be all secretive about it either, like checking your phone under the table or pulling it halfway out of your pocket.
There’s something inherently creepy about someone who treats their phone like a secret, and not a very good secret I might add -- you may not have noticed but the screen glows.
This will help you avoid catching them in the middle of washing their dog, their hair, etc! Be confident and talk to them like you’d talk to one of your friends. To avoid this pitfall, I’d suggest having a checklist which is especially easy to do since you’ve already communicated and there a ton of questions that you can ask them about their profile. You should definitely avoid talking about your exes, politics, recently deceased relatives or pets or anything that makes you feel less than happy. Asking questions of this type helps to foster your conversation and allow them to get a better feel for you as a match. Even though e Harmony does a very good job of matching you, I’ve seen and read a lot of profiles where users have taken some liberty with what they’ve written and embellished to varying degrees. If you’re going to do it, it should be near the end of the call.
You’ve invested so much to get to this point; don’t be afraid to reveal that you’ve looked forward to speaking with them. Don’t get me wrong — it’s ok to have some silence here and there, but you really want to avoid extended periods of dead air. Be prepared to talk about your life, friends and family, hobbies and recent accomplishments. This is the most important piece of advice I cannot reiterate enough.
Like showing up at a party you weren't invited to, some insane compulsion forces us to first look at our phones and then make up a (probably stupid) reason for doing it, like checking Twitter to see if there's been an earthquake in the last five minutes. If you're alone, or on the subway, or in the elevator it's okay to be phone-focused, but there are situations when talking, texting or even just looking at your phone is not okay. First off, the checking-for-no-reason checking (Twitter, Facebook, absently swiping through menus), needs to stop completely when you're out with friends.
Like constantly glancing at the door of the bar, it makes people think you're looking for something better.
The speed of my response depends on so many things.