Physical touch/intimacy should correspond with commitment. This doesn’t mean anything goes if you are engaged. What is your motivation -- power and control, gratifying your own ego, meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection?
If you feel convicted of certain behaviors, stop doing them.
I have recently enetered a relationship with a christian girl, and both her and i have a growing concern about having a relationship that pleases GOd…
Don’t get me wrong, as a professional counselor and as a woman who has gone through the world of dating, I think the question of physical boundaries is really important and requires some serious thought and consideration.
It’s important to put mental time and energy in questions like this and to set your limits within a dating relationship- which is why I’ve devoted an entire chapter to it in the most important thing?
many thanks, - Dieter Hi Dieter It is great to see you being serious about keeping your relationship with your girlfiend pleasing to God.
As one poet has said,"dating is a dangerous game, temptation should be its name!
You must decide before you go on the date what your limits will be.
It’s too difficult to think when passion overtakes you. You can resist temptation if you put on the whole armor of God (Eph. A sort of “emotional sex” that can be just as harmful and heartbreaking, when it moves too deep, too fast. She decided not to “date around” but instead wanted to wait until she felt that dating would definitely lead to marriage.As wise as that decision may have been at the time- when she finally did start dating Brian in her late twenties- she went too deep, too fast.It seems to me that our Christian society can get so fixated on the “physical” aspects of intimacy, that we neglect the emotional and spiritual components that can be just as binding and just as devastating in the end.There is some deep power in , more power than we give it credit.It seemed like I was stuck in that cycle—until I met my husband, James. It was the beginning of the lifelong adventure of sex that we get to share with just each other And I am so thankful for that. I dated one truly wonderful guy—but he didn’t share my standards.