In most cases single unmarried women are not ready to accept a man with kids as there is an underlying feeling of insecurity. If you happen to be dating a divorced man you should realize the fact that a relationship that once existed is over and the man is ready to move on in life.If you truly love the guy the presence of his children should not cause you any problems.
In fact, your moving into his life can cause disturbances in the lives of his children which you will have to try to settle.
Looking at the bright side, a man with children is more sensitive and compassionate. For any relationship to succeed both parties should be compassionate about each other and respect one another.
Meaning YOU, is not going to introduce any ol' person into his child's life. It also made me realize that I wanted to have children of my own one day, and I knew upfront that my partner would be a great dad. By Sujeiry Gonzalez, love guru for 93.9 FM and relationship author. Imagine how difficult it is to be a stepmother — you have to look after his kids, cooperate with their mom and share your man.
That's what's in store for you when you date a guy with kids.
Determining Whether to Continue Your Relationship Interacting with Your Significant Other Building a Relationship with His Children Community Q&A So you've met the man of your dreams..he's got kids.
There are a lot of ways that you could react to discovering that he has children, but if he truly is the man of your dreams you should be able to have a relationship with him and with his children.
I have learnt through maturity and life’s little lessons, that limiting yourself or options because of the checklist of the perfect man or ideal relationship you have etched in your mind doesn’t actually prove to be realistic. Yes the other woman; the ex who will always be present in both of your lives. Will your plans get rescheduled at the last minute, because something came up with the child or because of a situation with the other parent? Can your significant other manage any possible drama? And let’s be real, what about feeling secure about your relationship when you see him with her and their child, looking like a happy family unit? Still, it was a great relief to have taken that step. another thing with dating someone who has a child is this…
But while it isn’t the ideal situation for some women, is dating a guy with a child really all that bad? It very well depends on the man, and how serious he is about getting into a committed relationship. When my guy mentioned that he had a child, I admit that the fear factor did set in. Having to deal with the ‘chile mudda’ may not be one’s cup of tea, but this is one of the things you may have to do while you’re dating your guy. something even more special is added to the relationship, as the guy would have to trust you to take such a big step in introducing you to his prized possession, and it’s often a good sign that he takes you seriously.
The decision will be entirely yours – especially if you are single.