(Red Flags, we like to call them.) As we navigate “dating” again, we quickly realise the rules are very different.
Our experience gives us some distinct advantages in terms of recognising what we don’t want.
What they never get to see is the reality of what my life is.
They never get to see that even though it isn’t always roses and sunshine, I have good relationship with the mothers of my children.
We support each other and co-parent because our kids are what matters, not us.
We respect and admire one another as parents and people, regardless of the fact that we didn’t work out.
Trust me, they could use a home away from home for the evening.
[Feb 2016 Update: Dating a Divorced Dad – Version 2.0 Updated] Let’s Hook Up, Wait. We’ve both got some history under our belt, kids, and some requirements for what’s OK and what we simply won’t ever do again.
During that time, you’ll hear all about his kids’ sports, his kids’ accomplishments, his kids’ science projects, and possibly even his kids’ most recent pooping problems.
Consider this a “how to date a single dad” advice list. He’ll eventually realize he’s doing it and the conversation will then become first date appropriate.
I smile back, wondering if it’s me or my son she sees. My anxiety keeps me from making such attempts, but I want to. It is what it is; at least that’s what I tell myself.