I recently started getting e-mails from a number of dating sites.At first I assumed they were random spam, but I quickly realised that someone must have registered on those sites using my email address by accident.Every woman I know, when she joins Ok Cupid or Fetlife or any of the assorted pay sites out there, experiences the same thing, regardless of her profile contents: a slow but steady trickle of messages from random guys, all of them between one and eight words long.
have happened was that I received no further e-mails after failing to confirm my email address.
But alas, I am still receiving unsolicted e-mails from them.
What was interesting was how the different sites responded to my attempts to stop the e-mails.
I’ve decided to name and shame because some of the companies are clearly in breach of email spam legislation and all but one company has ignored my requests for them to cease.
’ ” says Mike Reading, Cloudmark’s director of technology for the Americas.
To end reply STOP.” Annoyed, I typed “STOP” and hit send. “Six months ago, when I would tell people I work for an anti-spam company and work on mobile spam, they’d all wonder, ‘What’s mobile spam?
So on average, it’s a pretty good strategy in a Tragedy of the Commons kinda way.…having the pressure on you to make the initial approach is incredibly difficult.
It involves putting a lot of your ego on the line, just laying bare your sense of self and sticking a big KICK ME sign on it. As I’ve written before, having the pressure on you to make the initial approach is incredibly difficult.
There is, however, one phenomenon online that is so strictly and so heavily gendered that it is a source of much bafflement to many.