But University of Oregon sociology doctoral student Tony Silva wanted to dive deeper into communities that often go overlooked when sociologists look into the whole “straight homosexual sex” thing.
It seems like very gay man I know is turned on by straight men -- they want to sleep with them, they want to date them, they want to see them in pornos, hell, they want to be them. This is baffling to me: if I learn a guy is straight, I am instantly turned off. Even when I have no interest in the person, learning they're gay at the very least makes me very happy. Straight guys get to me because I know I can't have them. Often times, I'm not interested in a guy until I have definitive proof that he is straight. I am one of those who definitely find straight guys attractive. But before "knowing" for sure you can fantasize about someone's sexuality a little or convince yourself that they're curious even if you know they at least have opposite sex relationships.
I just don't understand why gay men find it attractive! When a man is effeminate, even when he's a catch in other aspects, I still do not find him attractive. Sounds creepy but as long as you don't make a move on the person, no harm done.
The specific type of sex the participants had with other men — bud-sex — cemented their rural masculinity and heterosexuality, and distinguishes them from other MSM.
The participants only wanted to have sex with other guys who were like them, matching in age, race, with an overtly manly demeanor.
They could just be very masculine gay men.inevitably a girl is going to pop in the thread and share the opposite experience. l agree with you about being turned off when you find out someone is straight.
I mean how do we even know the straight guys we like are actually straight.If you happen to reject one after learning they’re such, expect to be publicly identified and attacked.It’s similar to a discussion I witnessed not too long ago among some Progressives on how the low white male-black female rape numbers are evidence of white racism.Though 2016 has basically sucked for the most part, people are becoming much more accepting of all sorts of sexualities and genders, which is pretty damn awesome.However, there’s one kind of sexual identity that might have been overlooked: straight men in rural areas who have sex with other men, but don’t identify as gay.Turns out, the participants all perceived their sexual relations to be more of a courtesy to other guys, essentially relieving their urges and just aiding a friend in a way to get off without developing any deep feelings or emotional connections.