“Other tactics include use of isolation, controlling who he/she speaks to and what they wear.” Zoe’s relationship got so out of control that she had to block her ex-boyfriend on seven different forms of communication including Facebook, two e-mail addresses, Instagram etc.
But somehow he still managed to contact her leaving Zoe no choice but to consider filing a restraining order.
“He only wanted me to be with him,” said Zoe, a University of Arizona student.
“He always made me feel guilty for things I never did wrong,” said Zoe.
Even more unfortunate, is the young age that these unhealthy relationships and patterns can begin.
Domestic violence is becoming an increasingly common issue for adolescents, with 1/3 of U. girls reported victims of some form of dating abuse.
The 2013 national Youth Risk Behavior Survey found approximately 10% of high school students reported physical victimization and 10% reported sexual victimization from a dating partner in the 12 months* before they were surveyed. All too often these examples suggest that violence in a relationship is normal, but violence is never acceptable.
Dating violence is controlling, abusive, and aggressive behavior in a romantic relationship. It can include verbal, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, or a combination.
But in 37 percent of those cases, students said they chose not to step in.
Girls were more likely than boys to intervene, and students who had themselves been victims of sexual violence or dating aggression were more likely to intervene than students without that personal history.
Break the Cycle (breakthecycle.org) is an organization committed to empowering youth to end the cycle of domestic violence.