” the words beckoned under the Self Summary section of my brand new, totally blank Ok Cupid profile.Armed with a Diet Coke and a new resolve, I was actually signing up for online dating, something I hadn’t done in three years.It is more common for women to want to shut down their profile as soon as they have experienced a great date. They are generally slower in moving to the monogamous stage.
Of course, never use your real name and don’t be too cutesy.
I picked a username that reflected something important in my life that I hope is important to my future mate’s life.
Creating your online dating persona might be the most difficult step in attracting the right men.
Do you share what you think men want to hear or do you share what you think will screen out the undesirables and screen in the desirables? You need good bait to attract and catch the type of fish you really want.
Instead of going the online dating route, I’d planned to simply shift my energy. So I thought, if I was serious about coming out of my dating hiatus, I was going to have to take some concrete steps to make it official.
I didn’t want to actually anything or take actions to get dates, I just wanted to be energetically open to dating, and hope that the Universe, and some compatible guys therein, would sense that and respond, by way of asking me out. It seems like everyone who’s single and online dating is on Ok Cupid, and I hadn’t tried it before so didn’t have any old negative associations with it, plus it’s free! Much of that was genuine, but I also have to confess to at times having typed, “Cheerful, coffee-drinking yogini who loves to laugh looking for intellectual, playful man to share in the adventures of life!If one more man says he is looking for his soul mate, I think I will scream.Before you begin writing your profile, I recommend this eye-opening TED talk, “How I hacked online dating.” In my profile, I tried to show prospective dates that I was happy, healthy, funny and wise.After she stopped laughing and telling me how much she loved me (and let’s be honest, who doesn’t love me??!), she told me I should share it on my blog as an example of how a profile should be written.And the site itself has a kind of fun, light, whimsical personality, which is the attitude I want to adopt towards dating this time around. ” through tears, driven to online dating by a devastating breakup and the fear that I’d be alone forever.